Success, what is it?
When
I achieve my target, my goal, within a definite time-frame, I call it a success.
Good! When do you consider yourselves to be a successful person?
When
Ø I win in
competitions
Ø I top the list in
exams
Ø I am promoted in
career
Ø I am appreciated
and acknowledged by people
Ø I earn more and am
affluent
Ø I earn name, fame
and am recognized by all
Ø I excel in all that
I do
Does success depend on what you get from the outside world, like
promotions, recognitions and appreciations?
Yes,
to a certain extent.
If we keep improving consistently and yet if we don't top the
list, does it mean that we are not successful?
Yes,
when I lack behind many people, how can I consider myself to be successful? I
want to be the first or at least within the top three.
Excellent!! Aiming to be the first is a wonderful way to grow
but does it depend on you performing better than others? Does other people’s
work decide you being successful in anyway?? Say, ranging from 1-10 (1- poor,
10-best) you have the capacity to reach 9 and others have the capacity of about
7, if you achieve 7 and others get 6, you have been promoted, do you consider
yourself successful?
Well,
if I top the list and much better than the others, I am successful, am happy 😃.
Let’s think. When I’m capable of something more but just because
I have scored more than the others (but less than my capability), am I
successful? We initially termed success as “a target achieved” but during the
journey of life, we tend to compare ourselves with others and spoil the show.
We do the same comparison with our children, relatives and
friends too. Our intentions of our loved ones to excel in everything, is very
pure. But we tend to compare their performance with others and criticize them
if their growth is comparatively less. Comparison is a threat to success.
What
happens when we compare people’s performances?
Ø We focus
on the result more than the journey before it.
Ø We tend
to either underrate or overrate people, which do not help them in improving
consistently.
Ø We
may slowly tend to become jealous of the other which is highly dangerous for
the self and others.
In
this highly competitive world, how else can I be successful?
Success, only and only depends on my target and my own
improvement towards it. Every attempt to learn more and improve in my field of
interest is a success in every phase. When I’m able to appreciate myself on
every small improvement, I grow faster towards my target. Other people never
come into picture when one’s success is considered.
When I keep learning from
my mistakes and keep growing, I feel happy with my growth. This further
motivates me to perform more. Whatever be the hurdles in my way, I look into
only what I can do to overcome those and use my experience for further growth. I
believe in my strengths and determination. I don’t give-up until I achieve it. I never look into where and how others are. On the other hand, I’m
open to help others in their journey towards their target.
This helps me to
learn a lot, not restricted only to my field of interest but expands wider than
I can ever imagine.
When I learn to
grow in this way, I remain happy during my journey towards my goal. Happiness
IS NOT only when the goal is achieved but is the journey towards it. I
get to know my hidden strengths. I do not compare or compete with anyone. I am
free to grow at my pace using my capabilities and creativity. If at all I look
at others, it is only from a learning perspective.
Money, name, fame, appreciations and recognitions do not define
one’s success. When we desire for such things, in the name of success, we tend
to get into the groove of several malpractices like lying, cheating, using
easier but wrong ways of getting things done, etc. If our journey towards
success is filled with such activities, such a success is worth nothing but
worse than a failure.
Ø Put in your best every time
Ø There will definitely be hurdles in your way, in the form of,
A few
steps on how to move towards your goal
Understand
why and how much the goal is important to you.
Ø Believe
that you can do itØ Put in your best every time
Ø There will definitely be hurdles in your way, in the form of,
·
difficulty in understanding and implementing
·
people's intervention
·
financial problems
·
health issues and unexpected incidents in life
·
unable to focus or spend more time due to other work, etc
Ø
Take every improvement as a boost to move further with humility
Ø
Take every fall-back as a learning process
Ø
Never ever lose focus, stay determined in what you want to
achieve, if that is your priority
Ø
Find ways to solve problems, instead of running away from it
Ø
Keep telling to yourself repeatedly, "I can do it"
Ø
Help others (those who are interested) to grow
Ø Learn
from others mistakes and success stories
Does
happiness depend on one’s success??
Never. When we make our happiness dependent on success, our life
becomes stressful and miserable. To know where our happiness lies, please click http://a-new-way-of-living.blogspot.in/2016/10/do-you-want-to-be-happy-when-how-often.html
All the best and have a wonderful journey
of happiness and enthusiasm. Success will automatically follow you!!!
